Broken and Unbroken

Proud, Unbroken People

Focus on the failures of others
Are self righteous; have a critical, fault finding spirit
Look at own life/faults with a telescope but others with a microscope
Look down on others
Are independent; have a self sufficient spirit
Maintain control; must have their way
Have to prove that they are right
Claim rights
Have a demanding spirit
Are self protective of time, rights, reputation
Desire to be served
Desire to be a success
Desire for self advancement
Are driven to be recognized and appreciated
Are wounded when others are promoted and they are overlooked
Think “the ministry is privileged to have me!”
Think of what they can do for God
Feel confident in how much they know
Are self conscious
Keep people at arm’s length
Are quick to blame others
Are unapproachable
Are defensive when criticized
Are concerned with being respectable
Are concerned about what others think
Work to maintain image and protect reputation
Find it difficult to share their spiritual needs with others
Want to be sure no one finds out about their sin
Have a hard time saying, “I was wrong. Would you forgive me?”
Deal in generalities when confessing sin
Are concerned about the consequences of their sin
Are remorseful for being caught
Wait for the other party to come and ask for forgiveness in a conflict
Compare themselves with others and feel deserving of honor
Are blind to their true heart condition
Don’t think they have anything of which to repent
Don’t think they need revival (think everybody else does)

Humble, Broken People

Are overwhelmed with their own spiritual need
Are compassionate; have a forgiving spirit; look for best in others
Esteem all others better than self
Have dependent spirit; recognize others’ needs
Surrender control
Are willing to yield the right to be right
Yield rights
Have a giving spirit
Are self-denying
Are motivated to serve others
Desire to be faithful to make others a success
Desire to promote others
Have a sense of unworthiness; are thrilled to be used at all
Are eager for others to get the credit
Rejoice when others are lifted up
Think “I don’t deserve to serve in this ministry!”
Know that they have nothing to offer God
Are humbled by how much they have to learn
Have no concern with self at all
Are willing to take the risks of loving intimately
Accept personal responsibility
Are easy to be entreated
Receive criticism with a humble, open heart
Are concerned with being real
Know all that matters is what God knows
Die to own reputation
Are willing to be transparent with others
Are willing to be exposed; knowing once broken, there’s nothing to lose
Are quick to admit fault and to seek forgiveness
Deal in specifics
Are grieved over the root of their sin
Are repentant over sin and forsake it
Take the initiative to be reconciled; gets there first
Compare themselves with the holiness of God and feel desperate for mercy
Walk in the light
Have a continual heart attitude toward repentance
Continually sense their need for a fresh encounter with the filling of the Holy Spirit

This post is adapted from a teaching by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. She has authored fifteen books, including Lies Women Believe, A Place of Quiet Rest, and Seeking Him.